Former South African TV personality‚ Precious Kofi (now Schamel) has detailed some of the pressures placed on couples who are in a mixed-race relationship or marriage‚ which is something that Precious knows first-hand.
Precious‚ who once lit up our screens as the host of Precious Africa‚ is married to a white American man. The couple have two children.
Taking to Instagram recently‚ Precious reveals that even though race is not a big issue in her family‚ they are not immune to discriminative comments made about them.
“We’re definitely not immune to race issues and do experience our share of prejudicial comments more often than I care to count‚” Precious wrote.
“I’m not going to pretend like colour isn’t a thing‚ as even the most well-meaning human loving individuals in our lives aren’t able to truly see passed the colour of my skin.”
I received a message the other day where the individual was telling me that she is praying for kids with light skin and how blessed I am to have that and be married to a white man. True Story. I've been getting a lot of these kinds of emails lately so I thought to address it. Now I have never ever spoken about race here because it simply doesn't play a part in our family of four. Yet we're definitely not immune to race issues and do experience our share of prejudicial comments more often than I care to count…I'm not going to pretend like color isn't a thing as even the most well meaning human loving individuals in our lives aren't able to truly see passed the color of my skin. _____________________________________ So back to this message: at first it rubbed me the wrong way and then I had a moment to think. There was a time in my life when I also went googoo gaga over children of mixed race. I'll even be as vulnerable as to tell you that I thought marrying someone of another race would make for an easier relationship. I was incredibly young, naive with a pinch of stupidity. I thought that a man's character was defined by his race. So in a way I can understand where these messages are coming from. They are embedded in absolute ignorance. After two kids and being married for nearly 5yrs, that naive girl has grown a bit. What I would like to tell my young self is that a man is a man, period. As a woman is a woman, period. With race it's so easy for each one of us to generalize and place people within a box of our own understanding. Life is far more complex than the complexion of your skin. And my hope is that we will raise our kids to be people of substance. To be more than their race, their education and any other label the world uses to define us. Because, again, YOU are way more than that.
To the other extreme‚ Precious revealed that she has received a lot of messages from people who share how they would love to have mixed-race children and a white husband‚ like her.
She says that at first these messages “rubbed me the wrong way” but then she realised that there was a time when she too went “googoo gaga over children of mixed race” and thought marrying over the colour line may make the marriage easier.
“After two kids and being married for nearly five years‚ that naive girl has grown a bit. What I would like to tell my young self is that a man is a man‚ period. And a woman is a woman‚ period. With race it’s so easy for each one of us to generalize and place people within a box of our own understanding. Life is far more complex than the complexion of your skin