Relationship advice from experts.
QUESTION: My wife and I have been married for eight years, but we have not had s#x for two years now. When I ask her what’s wrong, she says she has lost interest in s#x. However, she does not want us to separate. I feel frustrated and don’t know what to do.
BOITUMELO replies: You can leave the relationship since it’s an option that you are willing to give her. But I can tell that you feel she must be the one to leave since she is the one who has lost interest in the relationship. Maybe involving a neutral person to intervene can assist because you have not been successful in resolving the problem in two years.
MOM replies: Your wife may be disenchanted. To win her back, re-enchant her. Romance her outside the bedroom. Take her to a concert. Buy her a nice dress. Take her out for dinner. Whisper sweet nothings in her ear. Wear your cologne and disempower her with your scent. When she is charmed, she will drop it like it’s hot.
QUESTION: I am 31 years old. My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years now. I’ve never met his family and he avoids saying anything about them. I feel like I don’t know him and he is hiding something. I wonder if he is serious about us?
BOITUMELO replies: It sounds questionable that he avoids talking about his family. I can tell you are uncomfortable that you don’t know that part of his life. Share your discomfort with him, maybe he can see it from your side and perhaps he can open up about it. Then you can tell if he is serious about the relationship or not. Otherwise, take your time to know him and don’t rush to commit to something that you are doubtful about.
MOM replies: You need to be patient darling. He may have compared his family to yours and what came out embarrasses him. Not introducing you may be more about his family than the seriousness of your relationship. If he is a good man, then bask in that.