If there is one thing men are good at, it is talking themselves into getting what they want.
Any man with enough finesse, confidence and timing, can get an interested woman to go out with him, and sometimes even sleep with him. It is usually very hard for a woman to allow a strange man to get to know her deeply, but as soon as a woman allows a man “in her space”, a man knows he has the keys to her heart.
It is in this stage that men usually excel. Once they are confident that they have passed the initial “screening stage”, not only does their confidence increase, but their mannerism is more relaxed. Think of it this way: when a man meets his girlfriend for the first time, he tries to impress her as much as he can, yet there is still some nervousness and awkwardness in the way he talks. As he becomes more comfortable around his girlfriend, he becomes a smooth operator, talking with the slickness and efficiency of a used car salesman.
This brings me to my next point about how men react during sexual intercourse. Before they get “any action” as most men see it, they will sweet talk a woman, whisper sweet nothings in her ear, tell her how beautiful she is, and how much he loves her. The instant after the sexual intercourse is finished, men go into hibernation mode. It is understandable if they don’t want to be touched, but how does reaching climax prevent a man from talking about it a couple of minutes later?
As with everything in life, men usually lose interest in something after they get it. Women are no fools; they know that, for a man, sometimes the chase is better than the catch . That is why women play hard to get. The sad part is, that all it takes is 5 minutes of very gentle talk after sex, to make a woman feel satisfied. If a man wants to score huge brownie points with a woman, he must learn how to treat her throughout the whole sexual process.
keeping her happy
It isn’t like you need a doctorate degree in physics to figure out that telling a woman certain things after she shares her most precious gift with you -in case you are lost, I am talking about sex- that she is more willing to share that gift with you again. It is the same principle they teach business students; it is cheaper to keep current customers happy than to find new ones. It is a lot easier to maintain a relationship with your current partner, than it is to go out and find a new one.
So what do you have to do? Here are three simple things a man could talk to a woman about, after sex, that will leave no doubt that he is not only a great lover, but a caring person:
things to say:
1– Talk to her about what just happened, both what you liked, and what you didn’t like. Remember for everything you didn’t like, mention 3 things that you did like. The worst thing you can do is be negative in a situation where a woman feels vulnerable.
2– Reassure her of your feelings towards her. You don’t have to tell her you love her, but let her know your feelings -if you have no feelings, keep that to yourself- it shows character in a man.
3– Tell her how you feel. This is not very hard for a man to do, after all, unless the sex was unsatisfactory, a man is generally in a positive state of mind after intercourse.
Talking about these things takes no more than five minutes, yet it can narrow the gender gap between men and women, and those who think men are from Mars, and women are from Venus. Sex is always great to have, but communication and understanding is what ensures continual pleasure in having it.